Learning to Honor Yourself on the Pink Coattails Podcast

Understanding your WHY and building a business of power, ease, and honoring yourself is what Ellen Britt and I talk about in this packed podcast episode of Pink Coattails. As a master interviewer, Ellen asked me questions that I have never been asked before. We talked about

• my why,
• the biggest fear that held me back for a time (dying),
• how I manage my energy,
• what I do for fun in my business
• my favorite personal and business resources,
• and much more!

Media Type: Audio Podcast
Length: 35 minutes

Update: Ellen decided to close her podcast, but we have a summary of what we discussed below.

What is your Big Why, your deeper your deeper reason why you chose the entrepreneurial path AND how your Big Why has impacted a business decision you have made?

I’m sure it may sound a bit odd for a business mentor to say this, but my big why is because I want to Save people’s lives. You see, the people I work with are the world changers (they may not see themselves in that way, but they know that they were meant for something bigger. They can’t change the world if their own mindset, blocks and business systems are not properly aligned. Sometimes, like me, they have to save their own life before they can help others.

Knowing this is my purpose, I approach my work with an extreme level of transparency and deep connection to those I work with. I now have no fear in speaking my truth and asking difficult questions. I also know that that type of work requires quite a bit of energy, so I have built proper structure into my own business to make that possible. I also used to pigion hole my skills into very simplified services, but today you get all of me. The analytical and practical and the creative and spiritual me. The wonderful thing is that now that all of me comes out to play, my clients experience really fast transformations and I completely love what I do. 

What is the most difficult mindset challenge you have faced in your entrepreneurial journey, how you overcame it and what you learned from going through this experience?

Fear of dying. Fear that if I really went back into work that I would not go back into my workaholic ways. Bottom line, though, it was about not trusting myself and thinking that work had to be hard. I grew up in the midwest and we are a hard-working group of people. I was taught that if you work hard enough you can get anything you want. Somehow I began to believe that if I did not work hard, I did not provide value. It showed up in all kinds of visibility blocks. I was sabotaging my visibility in a number of different ways. 

I started working my way through these mindset challenges by consciously deciding what I wanted to own as my own beliefs and what I could let go as beliefs of family, friends and past mentors. We all have a inner truth that if we get still and really listen, we can hear. 

Then, I began testing everything against what I call the resentment test.

What do you do consistently (daily or very often) to nurture yourself. What do you do when you need a complete recharge?

Self-care is really critical for me, so I have a number of things that I do on a regular basis. To start with, I begin every morning with prayer, meditation, gratitude and visualization before I even set foot out of the bed. It is a wonderful way for me to step into who I want to BE in my day. I eat well, focus on getting lots of sleep and drink what some might say is a ridiculous amount of water every day. I love taking my dog for a walk and every few weeks treat myself to a mani/pedi. I have worked my schedule so that I get recharge time every day and I honor my boundaries as valuable. When I need a complete recharge I will take the day off and honor what my body needs. That could be energy work, sleep, play, sing, dance, go see a show or concert or travel.

When you find yourself procrastinating on a task or having low energy around getting something done in your business, what is your favorite motivational strategy to get yourself back on track?

Alignment check and resistance check and then modify. If my energy is stagnant, then I dance!

What is going on right now that has you really excited? What is your vision for where you want to take your business next?

Recently, I’ve decided to go back to doing more private 1:1 work and it has been filling me up! I have two different programs that I’m running: my Unleash and Leverage Your Brilliance NOW program and my Money Mindset and Magnetism program.

My next short term step for my business is to do more video. I’m exploring a few different ideas for HOA hangouts on air shows too.

Your favorite motivational or personal development book AND your favorite business book (new or old)

Motivational Book — One that I created for myself. I have been collecting quotes, sayings, speeches and poems since I was about 10 years old. I have it all saved on Google Drive where I can easily access it from anywhere and on any device.

Business Book — Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini*

What is a favorite food discovery you’ve made lately. This could be your favorite brand of dark chocolate, a really delicious coffee bean, your favorite tea, etc.

I really love different kinds of tea! Lately, I have been having a lot of fun combining different flavors.

Today I’m drinking a combination of Chi and roasted dandelion root with a little coconut oil and stevia. It is a rich full-flavor combination.

Traditional Medicinals Organic Roasted Dandelion Root Tea http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0009F3S78?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B0009F3S78&linkCode=shr&tag=calahansoluti-20&linkId=WZCXH5NQ5I64V4GF&qid=1412608841&sr=8-1&keywords=dandelion+root+tea

Organic India Tulsi Tea Chai Massala http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001B0S8R0?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393185&creativeASIN=B001B0S8R0&linkCode=shr&tag=calahansoluti-20&linkId=5TCYJ4JWPHE3R6VU&psc=1

If you like a more fruity flavor, this combination is awesome too:

Yogi Tea – Green Tea Blueberry Slim Life http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B005P0LA2C?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B005P0LA2C&linkCode=shr&tag=calahansoluti-20&linkId=NUJPJJYS7DCFI5OH&psc=1

Tazo Passion Tea http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004W7T968?ie=UTF8&camp=213733&creative=393177&creativeASIN=B004W7T968&linkCode=shr&tag=calahansoluti-20&linkId=UMXJWT2DTWYTG6L2&psc=1

Do you have a recipe for a favorite dish you’d be willing to share with us?

Gluten-Free Rotisserie-Style Chicken
FOR 6-7 Quart Crock Pot   
15 minutes prep   3 ½ – 5 hours cooking

Ingredients:

• 1 whole chicken or bone in chicken halves
• 1 ½ teaspoons sea salt
• 2 teaspoons paprika
• ½ teaspoon onion powder
• ½ teaspoon dried thyme
• ½ teaspoon dried basil
• ½ teaspoon ground cayenne pepper
• ½ teaspoon black pepper
• ½ teaspoon garlic powder
• 2 tablespoons olive oil or coconut oil

Instructions

1. Spray slow cooker with nonstick cooking spray.
2. Rinse chicken in cold water and pat dry with a paper towel.
3. In a small bowl mix together sea salt, paprika, onion powder, thyme, basil, cayenne pepper, black pepper, and garlic powder.
4. Rub spice mixture over entire chicken. Rub part of the spice mixture underneath the skin, making sure to leave the skin intact.
5. Place the spice-rubbed chicken a slow cooker. 
6. Drizzle oil evenly over eh chicken. 
7. Cook on high for 3-3 ½ hours or on low for 4-5 hours.
8. Remove chicken carefully from the slow cooker and place on a large plate or serving platter.

If you would like to make gravy to go with the chicken, follow these directions: 

1. After removing the cooked chicken, turn slow cooker on high. 
2. Whisk ⅓ cup garbanzo bean flour or ⅓ cup brown rice flour into the cooking juices. 
3. Add sea salt and black pepper to taste and cook for 10-15 minutes, whisking occasionally, until sauce has thickened.

Favorite body-care product examples could be an essential oil you are just crazy about, a favorite make-up, lotion or body cream and so forth

My favorite, no one has ever heard of product is organic grapeseed oil. I use it to moisturize and even remove makeup. I swear that it has removed the wrinkles around my eyes and my skin feels fantastic.

Now Foods Grape Seed Oil http://www.amazon.com/Now-Foods-Grape-Seed-Ounce/dp/B000RZPVV6/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1412608174&sr=8-2&keywords=organic+grape+seed+oil

Other really cool/creative personal development resources that you’d love to share.

This isn’t really all that creative, but my journal is a really great development tool. I created a template that works really well for me and my clients. I still find it amazing that I can begin my writing unclear about something and as I write, I uncover the answers. I know we don’t have much more time here, so I’ll share one question that I use. Who am I choosing to BE today. When you consciously start your day by choising who you are going to be, your results dramatically change.

What is your favorite powerful technique or tool to quickly center and calm yourself. Examples could be a favorite brainwave app or a way you meditate or pray or even a quick physical exercise or some power food or something else entirely.

I love my iPhone app called Brainwave – 32 Binaural Programs for quick centering and refocusing. Brain Wave ™ – 32 Advanced Binaural Brainwave Entrainment Programs By Banzai Labs https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/brain-wave-32-advanced-binaural/id307219387?mt=8

The second one I actually learned about while watching a TED talk by Amy Cuddy. In it, she talks about her research on body language. It reveals that we can change other people’s perceptions — and even our own body chemistry — simply by changing body positions. One of my favorites is standing like Wonderwoman/Superman. Arms on hips, legs spread a bit apart. I was amazed to see that it worked for me. http://www.stephaniecalahan.com/nhaf 

My Interviewer: Dr. Ellen Britt

Dr. Ellen Britt is an award-winning Online Marketing Strategist, Amazon best-selling author, podcaster, master interviewer, and founder of PinkCoatTails.com…providing information, connections, and a voice for women just like you, so you can ride in on the ‘coattails’ of other successful women entrepreneurs.

Pink Coattails is a podcast for women entrepreneurs and women small business owners. Motivation, mindset, and inspiration, plus great business advice five days a week is yours when you want it. Ellen’s interviewing skills are well known and she pulls the best from her guests, including advice and resources on the best business and personal advice.

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