Being able to connect and grow relationships is one of the best ways that you can grow your business. Yet, I have had conversations with new and seasoned business owners that have put a limit on who they can connect with.
Have you ever met someone or saw someone and felt like you could not talk to them? Where are you telling yourself that you are “not good enough” or “not smart enough” or “not X enough” to have conversations with someone??
Here is an example for you, every week on Breakthrough Business Strategy Radio, host Michele Price encourages her listeners to reach out and actually have conversations with her regular guests and her special guests for that show. Some people will take her up on the offer and reach out to us, while others never do.
I had one person connect with me about a year ago from the show and we chatted on social media. At the end of the conversation, he tells me “you are really authentically real.” I laughed and thought, I don't know any other way to be!
We had an interesting conversation about that. Since I had been on a radio show, he felt that I might not be interested in talking to him. (He had not been interviewed on the radio.) Couldn't have been farther from the truth.
I'm so glad that he reached out and started a conversation! We talk frequently now. Here are some ways that you can try this yourself:
Know that You are enough!
I believe that we all have blessings and gifts that are different. The world is a better place when we step up to our own greatness and interact.
Know that Their Perspective of Themselves May Not be as “Big” as You Have of Them
We don't know what we don't know. What you see on-line or watch on a stage is only one component of anyone's life. Just because someone has it look to you like they are 100% together and “have it all” does not mean that they do. They may be craving connection too! Really! I'm serious about this one.
Comment on Someone's Social Media Posts
Every business owner that I have talked to from those starting out to those that have built multi-million dollar business want interaction and engagement! If you find a post on GooglePlus, Facebook or LinkedIn that you resonate with, comment! Share how you relate or ask a deeper question.
Comment on and/or Share their Blog Posts
I love, love, love comments on my blog that engage in conversation. Don't you? There is some education out there that would tell you to only comment if you have some tip to add. I just don't agree. I suggest that you comment
- when you have something to add,
- when you are answering a question that the blogger asked
- when you have a question you'd like clarification
- when there was a particular section of the post that spoke to you
- when you have an opinion to share
On Social Media Simply Wishing Someone a Good Day!
Here is a tweet I received today:
Gary Hyman - @StephCalahan Good morning Stephanie. Hope you had a good weekend and your Monday is going well?
Gary is excellent at engaging conversation and he and I have chatted a number of times on Twitter. If you want some examples of simple, yet engaging conversations, go see what he is up to on Twitter.
Open a Conversation at Events or Networking Meetings
I remember a number of years ago when I was in awe of someone that I had been introduced to through a teleseminar. I learned that we would be going to the same conference and wrote her a quick note on Facebook telling her I looked forward to meeting her. Yet, it took me 2 days of a 3 day conference to walk up to her and say hello! I did it though and I'm really glad I did. Turns out, she is very introverted and does not like approaching others. We have since done a number of projects together. What a wonderful thing I would have missed if I had not stepped up my game and brought my “higher/bigger self.”
The Point is >> Connect!
What other things do you do?
Who can you talk to today?
What do you think? Have you ever felt that way?