6 “Backlashes” of Setting Boundaries and How to Think About Them
When you set boundaries with people, you may experience what feels like backlash.
It can look like:
- criticism of your choices
- disappoint in your choices
- false accusations lobbied at you
- expressions of frustration with your choices
- infantilizing you
- self-victimization
- etc.
This can feel uncomfortable, especially for people pleasers and recovering people pleasers.
Understand this:
Their behavior has much more to do with them being angry they can’t control you than it has to do with you.
You are not responsible for how they choose to feel.
Setting healthy boundaries is a good thing to do, and you get to decide what they are.
You have the right to experience safety, respect, individuation, and the freedom to be yourself.
If the boundaries you have set are broken, you are well within your rights to activate whatever choice is necessary to honor your values and protect your peace.
To your easy and joyful success!
Stephanie
P.S. Let this settle and notice what is true for you. Every moment offers the opportunity to create the life you want with grace, ease, and joy. Let me know when you’re ready to explore possible next steps.
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